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Survival Toolkit Of An Expat


You Are 72% Open Minded


You are a very open minded person, but you’re also well grounded.Tolerant and flexible, you appreciate most lifestyles and viewpoints.
But you also know where you stand firm, and you can draw that line.You’re open to considering every possibility - but in the end, you stand true to yourself.
How Open Minded Are You?


I am not a great fan of “funny” quizzes, but when I stumbled upon this one, it just appealed to me from the start. In fact, I find it useful as a thought provoking tool. Today’s world is a shrinking one - due to globalization. People from all over the world, with different backgrounds, a patchwork of cultures, religions and traditions find themselves living together in great melting pot urban hubs. It is really important that these people keep an open mind towards each other’s differences. And as an expat, that is one of the first things you should learn!

Be Better! - February in a few words

jci_shield.jpgFebruary was a busy month for me, and I must admit I kind of neglected my blog a bit. However, I could not miss the opportunity to write a post on 29th of February - my next chance at that would be 4 years away!

And what’s even better, I even have a lot to write about. First things first: my excuse for letting my blog go rusty is that in the meanwhile I was working on two other full blown websites: JCI Dublin and my very own!

I joined Junior Chamber International Dublin back in December, and started to get deeply involved in January and February. I found it while looking for some management and self-improvement trainings. There are quite a few companies that provide that in Ireland, however at steep prices, tailored for corporations rather than individuals. Maybe my company will sponsor that kind of training for me one day. Until then, JCI proved to be a perfect match, and love at first sight: their motto is “Learning by Doing!” and their purpose as a nonprofit organization is “to contribute to the advancement of the global community by providing the opportunity for young people to develop the leadership skills, social responsibility, entrepreneurship and fellowship necessary to create positive change”. Long quote, but hey - I think it’s worth mentioning it, as I fully agree with that.

I have a feeling I’ll be blogging about JCI some more in weeks to come :)

Other things that kept me busy were Philip Pullman’s trilogy “His Dark Materials”. An excellent book, that kept getting more and more interesting as I read on, practically devouring my way through the 1000 pages monolith. The book is a wonderful example of modern magic realism, touching on issues ranging from religion to biology, archeology, physics and metaphysics, all wonderfully wrapped around the architecture of a bildungsroman.

In the beginning of February I went to Scotland to take part in two events organized by the Glasgow and Edinburgh JCI chapters respectively. While waiting in the airport on the way back, and browsing through a library, my eyes caught sight of Intelligent Life, the lifestyle magazine edited by The Economist. Since I am a great fan of the Economist, I bought the magazine, and the first thing I read was the cover story on Pullman’s book and how it came to be. I had heard of the book before, and my interest was already raised, so from there to actually getting the book it was just a small step :) I saw the movie adaptation of the first volume as well - special effects aside, it was disappointing.

I also saw a movie called Juno this month, the story of an unwanted pregnancy, with a funny twist, a far cry from the bleak “4,3,2″ story, which I was blogging about a while ago. The main plot in both movies is very similar (a young girl is faced with an unwanted pregnancy), but they are set in two different eras and in two different worlds, thus with completely different outcomes.

And that was my February, in a lot of words actually, but still fewer than what it would take to tell the whole story.

Meet the enemy: Laziness

The epitome of lazinessTime and again I realize that laziness is every man’s greatest enemy. Especially when you start setting higher goals for yourself, that require regular sustained activity/effort, laziness will be the little voice in your head telling you that you can postpone things - “I can do this later…”

Obviously the more motivated you are towards your goals, the smaller the chance of such thoughts popping up in your head :) I do think though that even the most motivated people encounter laziness at least once on their path to their goals.

Have you ever promised yourself to start going to the gym regularly? Perhaps to run 10km a day? Learn a new language, lose weight, prepare for an exam, write something in your blog(!), you name it! Sooner or later there will always be that little voice telling you “I will do this tomorrow”, “I’m too tired now, perhaps later”. The question is, did you listen to it? Ok, we all know the answer to that one. The real question is “how many times did you listen to it?”. Everybody has their moments of weakness - it’s only human. To keep giving in though - is not. So I guess the only right answer here is “less and less times as I went”.

There’s always a threshold. If you pass it, you’re set. No more lazy thoughts from there on.

I find that for me the best example is running on the treadmill at the gym. About half way through, I feel like I’m not going to make it. I think “OK, maybe just this time I’ll stop here and go relax in the jacuzzi”. The way I get past that moment is to beat the lazy thoughts with motivating thoughts. Find them right there and then, or you’re done. “What if I was running to save the life of my brother/wife/mother/<insert-beloved-person-of-choice-here>?” usually works for me :D
With writing in the blog, it’s a whole different story. As with other things though, if you manage to get past that pesky little threshold, it will become second nature.

Life is a journey.

I am a passenger.
This is my journal.

This was going to be it. My first post - done. But as I wrote the words, spinning red alarms started in my head. I thought a bit. Looked up “passenger¹” in the dictionary. Then wrote the following.

I often thought about the meaning of the saying “Life is a journey, not a destination”…
It somehow feels true, and self-comforting in rough times. It can be very misleading though: I mean, surely, life is a journey you start when you’re born. There are several milestones, and then the destination is pretty much the same for all people. Obviously, life cannot be a destination.

The question is whether you control the journey, or does the journey control you? If the destination is the same for all, what matters is the path each takes. And I think this is the essence of the problem: are you in control of the path of the journey, or are you just relaxing in the back seat? Are you the driver, or just a passenger?

Starting from scratch then:

Life is a journey.

I have the ambition to be the driver.

This is my journal.

¹ - The definition from Wikipedia says: “A passenger is a term broadly used to describe any person who travels in a vehicle, but bears little or no responsibility for the tasks required for that vehicle to arrive at its destination”